"I can see your cellulite through your leggings"
What a shame, that someone actually said that to me. Obviously, that person had every intention of tearing me down. Making me feel bad about myself. Making me feel like I wasn't good enough. Making me feel like I wasn't working hard enough.
Since I started changing my lifestyle, I've gotten a lot of mixed feelings from the people I surround myself with. Most people give extremely positive feedback. Tell me how I've inspired them. It's really great.
However, there are still a few that throw so much shade, that I thought the sun had gone down.
I've heard it all. "Everyone finds it so annoying that you're doing this" "oh, are you going to have to workout extra hard because you ate a slice of pizza?" "If you're not drinking, why do you even bother going out?" And my favorite "I can see your cellulite through your leggings"
AND?! What the f*ck do you want me to say in response? What reaction were you trying to get?
It was just so ridiculous.
It's also ridiculous that there are people out there, that feel the need to ridicule others for trying to make themselves better.
STOP HATING ON PEOPLE WHO ARE TRYING TO BE BETTER VERSIONS OF THEMSELVES!!
Fit shaming is a thing.
I'm proud of my body. I'm proud of what I have accomplished in the last few years. I'm proud of myself. This wasn't easy. I've put in so much hard work. I grind my ass off (figuratively and literally).
The people we surround ourselves with either raise or lower our standards. They either help us to become the-best-version-of-ourselves or encourage us to become lesser versions of ourselves. We become like our friends. No man becomes great on his own. No woman becomes great on her own. The people around them help to make them great.
We all need people in our lives who raise our standards, remind us of our essential purpose, and challenge us to become the-best-versions-of-ourselves.
Is fit shaming really just a projection of jealousy? Are these people spewing these hateful words, because they actually feel bad about themselves? If so, is it worth it to get upset? The answer is simple. No. If I got upset over every single time someone pointed out that I didn't touch the bagels in the break room at my work, or every time I go out with my friends and don't have a drink, I'd live in a constant state of anxiousness.
The fact of the matter is, no matter what decisions you make on how to live your life, there will always be someone who will try to tear you down.
Brene Brown, a shame researcher, defines shame as "the intense painful feeling or experience of believing we are flawed and therefore unworthy of acceptance and belonging."
My body is far from perfect. I'm still on this journey. I know that I will continue to be ridiculed for the way I treat my body. However, i know what I want, and what it will take to get me there.
Self-care is not selfish.